Did you know that our eyes were too small and needed to be made bigger? Or even our noses looked weird. Maybe our face needs to look slimmer. Maybe these are questions we’ve asked ourselves in our dark moments, but we still come to terms with our body at the end of the day.
In the days where the media controls a lot of how young girls perceive themselves, and compare themselves to what they see in magazines; it’s great to see fashion powerhouses such as Cosmopolitan using more plus size models in their articles (October 2015 has an amazing one). The sort of apps that I found the other day take a huge step back.
These apps have gadgets that can make your face shape alter by making it skinnier, and there’s even a nose lift feature on some. The weirdest that I found was an eye enlarger. Is that a thing? I used the most drastic setting on all the available features and I didn’t recognise myself.
It is probably just meant to a bit of fun. But there will be people out there that feel that this is the sort of thing they need to make themselves look beautiful, and could lead to them going under the knife to alter their bodies. There were 15.6million cosmetic surgery procedures in the US last year on just women. Why do we feel the need to do painful things to our body to follow someone else’s warped idea of beauty??
To use a very cliche phrase; beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Each country has there own standards of beauty, and they’re really not all the same. And even then a lot of people will not fall into the standards and find happiness being themselves.
Every body is unique due to genetics. No amount of dieting can alter bone structure. Our pear, apple, hourglass, rectangle… whatever, all have more to do with individual bone structures than fat. You can slim down loads but still have that body shape, and everyone of them has their own beauty. I may be jealous of someone with a slender figure due to their ability to wear buttoned shirts and not have a fear of popping buttons. However, they may be equally jealous of my boobs. We need to stop body shaming ourselves by comparing ourselves to others. I will always have an hourglass figure, and will probably not ever wear a buttoned shirt.
I used to have a lot of confidence issues regarding my face. It’s where my weight would show first, and I wouldn’t let people photograph me if there was a chance of them showing my double chin. Selfies in my early blog days did the downward angle to make myself appear slimmer and avoid what I perceived as my ugly features.
Yes, I have lost some weight, and my double chin is still there. Yet, I have come to terms with the way my body is. I’ll be honest and admit I still have dark moments where I feel like I could go under the knife, but I have my own coping mechanisms. I posted them a while ago and I”ll link it here. I still find the diary and mirror techniques the most helpful if I don’t feel like sharing. I may not like my chin, but I find areas on my body that I love and focus on them; such as my legs or my eyes. Finding these focus points and looking at them or writing them down really do help me.
I know this started off as a rant about face altering so-called ‘beauty’ apps, but I wanted to make a point about body confidence. It is still something I struggle with, but I am a lot better than what I used to be.
I hope this little rant helped some of you. You don’t need apps or surgery to look beautiful. You’re beautiful without them.
Bye for now!