Today’s post isn’t about makeup or fashion or any of the nice things in life. Unfortunately breakups do happen in life and they’re not always things that you wanted to happen, but some things just push things in that direction.
I’ve had three longer term relationships in my life, although none have lasted longer than a year. Some breakups I behaved badly with, and others I was more mature with. But today isn’t about my relationships; today I wanted to share some tips for those who may have gone through a breakup recently, and are feeling a bit heartbroken and unsure how things can feel better after this wonderful relationship ended.
I am not an expert when it comes to love. I am a single woman who just happens to have had her share of heartbreak over the years. These are things that have helped me get over heartbreak, and I hope that some of them do help others too.
It is such a cliche, but this really helps. Delete their number, Facebook, twitter.. whatever you follow. The worst thing that you could do is stalk them on the internet. If their is a slim chance that you both could get back together, it looks bad if you know their every move, or are wondering who that blonde girl is next to them in a photo. You don’t want to be drunk texting at 3am either. It does scream desperation. I’ve been there, and I know how hard it is not to message someone that you cared about or check up on them. That’s why it’s so much better to delete them.
Go Have Fun with Your Friends
It has happened to me in the past with relationships where you do lose touch with some good friends during that relationship and once that relationship has ended I have tried getting in touch again. So this is really a bit of advise for during a relationship as well; keep in touch and go out regularly with your friends. There’s nothing better than having a group of friends to help you through the dark breakup period. But instead of moping and discussing how shit your ex was, go out in your best party clothes and have a girly night out. It’s nice just spending some time not thinking about men.
Don’t Blame Yourself
The worst thing that you can do is obsess over the details of your breakup and over analyse everything that you said to each other. Whatever happened happened for a reason and it’s best to leave it at that. It will only cause unnecessary anxiety and stress on your part, so it’s best just to avoid thinking too much about your breakup.
Throw Yourself into a New Hobby
With my first major breakup I threw myself into exercising. It took my mind off my ex and also helped me get a lot fitter. Exercise has been proven to relieve stress so throw yourself into something that will really get rid of those hurt emotions. I found kickboxing really helpful for some strange reason!
If exercise isn’t your thing, find something else that you can get passionate about. I have used crafting (bugger off Phandom) as a way to take my mind off a guy, which worked wonders. Just find whatever works for you.
Don’t be Afraid to Cry
One of the worst things that I did was hold in what I was feeling. Part of it was probably denial but I didn’t actually cry for about a week after my first boyfriend broke up with me by text. It actually took seeing him at work pretty much ignoring me for me to break down crying in my car after work. Holding it in and denying what had happened probably made me feel ten times worse. My advise is to just allow yourself to feel upset; it was a breakup with someone who you had strong feelings for. It just makes you human.
Dance it Out!
Find your favourite songs on Deezer and dance out your sadness. Okay, this one if a bit silly, but sometimes laughter is just as good a release as sadness. Lately I’ve been using Meaghan Trainor’s Better When I’m Dancing and Ed Sheeran’s Bibbia Bi Ye Ye which are both really upbeat songs, and quite fun.
And when you’re ready…..
When you are ready for a new relationship, take it slow. Just enjoy this relationship for what it is, and don’t compare them to your ex (at least don’t tell them you’re doing that anyway). A new relationship is always lovely in the beginning, when you’re getting to know each other, so enjoy them for being them.
So those are some of my breakup advise tips. I know that they’re not the greatest, but like every single girl out there I sometimes struggle to understand relationships, and it is an organic process, learning how to be in one and how to survive it’s possible end. I do hope that some of these help you if you are going through a breakup.
If you yourselves have any good breakup tips, please leave them in the comments.
Have a lovely day, and I’ll see you tomorrow!